Dear Diary,

8:30am: **Alarm rings**

8:31am: Get up and head to the bathroom.

I take this time to sit on the edge of the bath, contemplating events taking place in parallel universes, wondering why I didn’t choose a 9-5 lifestyle and hoping my prince charming is the heir to a fortune that can keep up with my need for new things and constant attention.

8:35am: Completes social media rounds.

I peruse through all snapchat stories to see how the other side lives because of course the grass is always greener (It’s not). Next up is Instagram to catch up on all the latest memes and celebrity drama, this is crucial for the day’s hot topic of conversation and just good old ‘banter’.

8:40am – 9:35am: Eventually I will actually do something like shower and get ready for work.

9:45am: Go to work.

10:30am – 10:30 pm: Work.

10:35: Leave work.

01:00 am: Go to sleep.

8:30am: **Alarm rings**


Like most humans, I lack the desire to wake up on days where I am obliged to function, hence how tedious my mornings appear to be. But with regards to work, aside from polishing cutlery, crockery, glasses and refilling sugar caddy’s and salt shakers, serving a mass of very ‘particular’ members is far from routine.

With the expectation from some members being higher that others, every day brings something new. Some members offer a pleasant change from the stiff yes sir, no ma’am service, by showing genuine interest in you and your time so far in America. Other members expect the 5* service they pay for with little to no conversation and the manners to match. Now that’s not me taking a jab at them personally, it’s just the truth about this industry, sometimes you have to have thick skin and a solid smile to get through.

To be completely honest, having worked in some pretty tough environments, being here has been a real character tester. More than anything it’s motivated me even more to work for myself. Of course everyone knows better and there is always a better way to do something but for me I’m learning that although I appreciate good service and fine food, I despise the attitude that comes with it.

My hope is to create something that offers fine food and good service but in a more relaxed and colloquial environment. Where servers can be themselves and aren’t required to be robots and where guests expect a more personalised and animated service. Each visit is different because people are different, non text book and unscripted, no need to be ‘P.C’ (politically correct) or generically polite.

Just something genuine.

As I spoke about in Wendy darling, this experience is shaping me and I see that even more now. In terms of work and my career, I realise that I don’t have to be restricted to the UK, that there is so much more out there to see. So many more cuisines, service styles and dining experiences to encounter, I’ve never had a greater desire for travel until now. To break out of my tedious morning routine and allow each day to offer something new.

As for working at a country club, I’m learning not to take things so personal, were often told that ‘they’re talking to the uniform not you’, although I don’t see that as a justification to be so down right rude, it is a good approach to take when faced with challenging members.

I know there are a lot of new skills and knowledge I will be able to take home with me, things that will help me complete my degree, obtain new and more rewarding job roles and eventually help me to achieving my career goals.

It’s been a roller-coaster ride so far and I’m sure there is a lot more headache and happiness to come. But if this journey were to be over tomorrow, I know already that I have gained so much.

Your journey has molded you for the greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.’

– Asha Tyson




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